Women Want Sex Too!
Seems fairly obvious, right? After all, we're human animals, just like men. We have hormones that rise and fall (more than men's do), that make us lust after a nice ass or chest. We love a nice sweaty tumble in bed.But if you look around the Internet, you'd have a little trouble finding anything that verifies that. Go to iVillage, which is geared toward women, and try to find the section on sex - that does not include relationship information! That's the kicker. The message is that it's okay to want sex as a woman, as long as it's part of a meaningful relationship. You know where they have the info on sex? Under Relationships and Family. I see - so I either have to be in a "relationship" or married to have sex. What if I am only interested in sex, not how it ties into my relationship or marriage? Out of luck, according to one of the biggest online sites for women.
This attitude makes me furious. What is wrong with thinking of a woman as a sexual being? Are we still caught in the madonna/whore trap? We're either good girls or we're whores - nothing in between. I think I'd rather be a whore. Why aren't men shoehorned into one of two categories like that? There isn't even a word for a man who sleeps around that's demeaning, as there are for women.
I think this prevailing attitude is one of the things that keeps us from taking charge of our own sexuality. We're discouraged from having a healthy attitude about sex, because we don't want to seem too interested in it. Seeming too interested in it makes us look like sluts, and we certainly don't want that. We all remember the girl in high school that everyone whispered about because she was "easy." We could imagine how much pain it cost her to be talked about like that.
I really think women's enjoyment of sex, whether it involves love or not, needs to be brought out in the open, and that's why I started Lilith.