How to Give a Great Blowjob
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I know you're probably thinking to yourself, "But isn't any blowjob a great blowjob as far as a guy is concerned?". Well, not necessarily. Any blowjob is a good blowjob as far as a guy is concerned, not great. Satisfying a guy is not the same thinking as absolutely wowing him. There are also some things you can do to ruin a blowjob too, believe it or not.
Here are some general tips on how to enhance your blowjobs.
- Let him watch. I know, I know, this may freak you out. You think you look gross kneeling or lying there with his penis distending your cheeks, bobbing up and down, or it simply embarasses you to have him watch. You need to get over the shyness. Men are sexually stimulated by visuals; that's why porn is the only real money-maker on the web. Also, believe it or not, he thinks you look beautiful. Remember also that if he's watching you, you know that he's not imagining it's someone else doing it.
- Don't worry about making a lot of noise. The loud sucking and licking noises are proof to him that you are really enjoying this, going for the gusto, so to speak. A few "mmm"s will really add to the experience for him, if you feel so inclined.
- Remember that a penis is not as sensitive as a clitoris, so you can be firmer than you would like on yourself.
- Dealing with gagging. You can control this, unless he starts fucking your mouth. The reason you gag is the little thing hanging down in the back of your throat. Hit that with his penis, and you're going to gag. Experiment with how far into your mouth you can take his penis before gagging.
- Swallow. Men hold women who swallow in extremely high regard. Don't ask me to explain why, but apparently men see their come as a sacred fluid. A man can feel very offended if you spit it out, although he may not tell you that. If you swallow it with a smile on your face, he will think you are a goddess. If you have any squeamishness about swallowing, all I can tell you is not to allow yourself to think about it, just swallow quickly.
- Find out how he likes it. Ask him at some point afterward (days later, if you want) if there's anything he would like you to do differently. Men have different likes and dislikes when it comes to blowjobs, and asking is one of the best ways to find out what he likes. Paying attention to non-verbal cues when you try something new during a blowjob is another way, but asking outright is obviously the most direct.
- And finally...enjoy it! Nothing turns a guy on like knowing you enjoy giving him a blowjob, and nothing turns him off faster than getting the feeling that it's a chore for you.
Specific Tips and Techniques
Remember that each guy is different, so you'll need to experiment to find out what he likes best.
The Appetizer
Start off slowly. Even if a guy is raring to go, take at least a minute to tease him. Stroke your fingernails up and down his inner thighs and around his balls while licking the top of his penis. You can also lick gently up and down the penis on the underside (the side that is not against his stomach while he's erect). Pay careful attention to the area underneath where the shaft joins the head. In most guys, it's very sensitive.
Another way to tease is to suck on his balls. In the sack of his testicles, you can feel the individual balls. Very gently take one in your mouth and again very gently, suck on it. You can also kiss and lick it at the same time.
The Main Course
Take his penis in your mouth, making sure (and this is very important) that you cover your teeth with your lips. At the same time, firmly grasp the base of his penis with a circle of your thumb and forefinger. Move his penis in and out of your mouth, at the same time swirling your tongue around the head or licking up and down the shaft. It takes a little practice, but you'll get the hang of it.
One alternative to this move is to literally "suck cock". Create suction with your mouth as you're moving his penis up and down inside. Vary the amount of suction to see what he likes.
Now, what should your hand be doing at this point? If you want to prolong the blowjob, then just leave your hand at the base of his penis. If you want to make the whole experience more intense, then you should move that circle of your thumb and forefinger up and down the bottom couple of inches of his penis.
When he starts to come do not remove your mouth. Keep doing what you're doing (it's working, after all) until he has finished coming. Then lick his penis gently a few times as a nice way to finish.
If he then wants to kiss you with remains of his come in/on your mouth, he's a keeper!