An Erotic Valentine's Day: Setting the Mood
Too often in sex, we forget to use all of the senses to arouse our lover. We end up following the same "kiss here, touch there" button-pushing pattern. This Valentine's Day, try spending a little time and energy setting the mood and re-discovering the eroticism of your sexual relationship.A Sensuous Scented Bath
First of all, candles are a must. Bathrooms are not the most sensuous places, as a rule, and candlelight makes a huge difference. Secondly, follow the bath recipe below, and I can almost guarantee arousal. One time I used it, we never even made it out of the bathtub before sex (not comfortable, but we weren't picky). Use unscented candles with this recipe, as scented ones may clash with the recipe. Five drops of Oil
of Patchouli
Seven Drops of Oil of Ginger
Three Drops of Oil of Clove
Ten Drops of Oil of Ylang-Ylang
Make sure that the bathroom is warm, and that you have a nice plush bathmat on the floor, just in case you never make it to the bedroom.
An Erotic Massage
Touch is the first of the five senses that we develop as babies, but one of the most neglected. Massage is an intimate and intense form of touch, both for the giver and receiver. As the giver, you have the additional pleasure of learning every inch of your partner's body intimately, and seeing which areas are the most sensitive to your touch.Prepare ahead of time by buying a book on massage and practicing on yourself. Learn a few different strokes and practice them until you can do them automatically, so that when you are using them on your partner, your mind is free to think ahead. Buy some scented massage oil (lavender is one of my favorites).
Set the scene with candles (naturally), some relaxing music and a warm room. Have some towels ready to cover your partner with. Only expose the area you're working on, or else your partner may get cold and tense his/her muscles. A warm bath or shower ahead of time is a good idea to relax the muscles. Make the massage either non-sexual, by avoiding erogenous zones, or build up sexual tension by gradually and lightly brushing nipples and genitals.